Money Issues

Well I still have not gotten the insurance money from my husbands life insurance (which they have denied me but is being contested). I stillhave not gotten his 401K money, which I am his husband AND listed as benificiary! The finacial group who managed his money have tried to keep hold of it and have taken their time in helping me so I am talking it all away from them and putting it in th bank! But almost a month after he died, I am BROKE! If not for our freiend and formere roomate I would not have food in the house or bills paid! I am very frustrated on top of still being in shock!